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If someone you know is contemplating suicide it is important that you listen to them when they express their feelings to you. It is pertinent that you let them know you are there for them and that you can help them find the resources they need
  • It is important that you say things such as;
    • I am here for you
    • I can help you
    • I care about you
  • It is important that you do not say things such as;
    • You are over exaggerating
    • It’s not the end of the world
  • Calm down
Know the resources available to help
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
  • Northern Illinois University Counseling and Consultation Services
  • Resources are available to help with anxiety

  • Depression can be experienced in varying ways and those with depression may not all exhibit the same symptoms.

    • Changes in mood or behaviors
      • Feeling sad, hopeless, alone all the time
      • Feeling unworthy
      • Withdrawn from life
      • Loss of interest in things
    • Verbal Signs
      • Alarming statements
        • “I won’t be around much longer”
        • “Things will never be okay”
        • Isolation
      • Increased substance use
    • Report Students of Concern
  • If you have noticed these risk factors, or anything else that may lead you to think that the person is at risk – don’t wait, ask
    • Efforts to reach out and encourage someone to seek help instead of attempting suicide will be met with agreement and relief
    • Speak in a private setting and give them your full attention
    • Have resources available (NIU’s Counseling Center/NSPL)
  • Any willingness to accept help at some time, even if in the future is a good outcome

  • What to do:
    • Be direct
    • Be ready to listen
    • Be non-judgmental
    • Show interest and support
    • Take action
    • Offer hope
    • Get help from
    • NIU Counseling and Consultation Center
    • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    • Use their support system

  • What not to do:
    • Never dare someone to do it
    • Try to not act shocked
    • Don’t swear yourself to secrecy
    • Do not leave someone alone who is in crisis