Are you a victim/survivor of a prior victimization?
Healing can begin at any point, and everyone’s journey is different. Many victims/survivors of sexual assault, dating/domestic violence, and stalking have broken the silence and opened up about their experiences, proving healing is possible. It is important to open up to someone to talk about your experiences and feelings, either with someone you know and trust, or with someone at Victim Advocacy Services.
If it didn’t happen on campus, why deal with it now?
Some may believe that because the abuse happened in the past, it is best not to rehash the past. They may avoid feelings and memories in order to function in their day-to-day lives. However, the abuse may still be affecting them. Triggers (internal or external reminders of the trauma) may bring up unresolved emotions.
Good self-care is a challenge for many people; and it can be especially challenging for victims/survivors of rape, sexual assault, and sexual abuse. It can also be an important part of the healing process.
Physical self-care is an area that people often overlook.
Emotional self-care will mean different things for different people. It might mean:
Keeping a journal
Meditation or relaxation exercises. For example:
Sit or stand comfortably, with your feet flat on the floor and your back straight. Place one hand over your belly button. Breathe in slowly and deeply through your nose and let your stomach expand as you inhale. Hold your breath for a few seconds, then exhale slowly through your mouth, sighing as you breathe out. Concentrate on relaxing your stomach muscles as you breathe in. When you are doing this exercise correctly, you will feel your stomach rise and fall about an inch as you breathe in and out. Try to keep the rest of your body relaxed—your shoulders should not rise and fall as you breathe! Slowly count to 4 as you inhale and to 4 again as you exhale. At the end of the exhalation, take another deep breath. After 3-4 cycles of breathing you should begin to feel the calming effects.
Emotional self-care can also involve the people around you. It’s important to make sure that the people in your life are supportive.
Another challenge can be in finding time for fun leisure activities.
Get involved in a sport or hobby that you love! Find other people who are doing the same thing!
If you have a spouse or partner, make a date night and stick with it.
Treat leisure appointments as seriously as business appointments. If you have plans to do something for fun, mark it on your calendar!
Make your self-care a priority, not something that happens (or doesn't happen) by accident!